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Bonding: Friendship With Horses

By Kerrie Tischer, Cowgirl

With permission from Cowgirl Diary

It’s been awhile since I’ve had the chance to just spend the day following my horse around. But today I was thinking back to when I was a kid, when I would be at the barn all day, not necessarily riding, but just spending time with the horses. There’s a lot to be said for getting solid hours of horse time.

When I was young, it was something we were often chided about. Either we were taking too long getting saddled up and brushing our horse’s whole body rather than just where the saddle fit, and Dad needed us to hurry up and “quit babying your horse!” because there was cattle work to be done. Or we had chores or homework left undone back at the house, but we had escaped to the barn from the time school was out until Mom called us for supper. And we were often in trouble because we were just out goofing around with the horses.

I miss goofing around with horses. There was always a better rapport between me and the horse if I had a lot of time to put into the relationship. I know for certain that the shortcomings in my horses now are a direct result of my lack of time for them. Being around a horse gives you the opportunity to watch them, see how they react, what they are afraid of, and what they enjoy, and it gives a trainer a better idea of how to get the most out of the horse.

I rode my mare Daisy last weekend, and am sad to admit it was the first time I’d ridden her in months (due to winter and muddy conditions and my poor work ethic when it’s cold outside). But saddling her up, I considered the fact that she hadn’t been ridden lately, and when I asked her to trot off away from the other horses, sure enough—she balked and came to a screeching halt with a hump in her back that indicated I had better be careful. Never mind that I’ve owned this horse for going on seven years, and she ought to behave better; I babied her along with encouraging pats and subtle leg squeezes, ignoring the cowgirl in me that said, “Come on, this horse knows better!” Because I’ve seen Daisy buck, and I don’t think I’m quite cowgirl enough to stay with her if she was pushed too hard at the wrong moment. So we had a nice polite discussion and she obliged by going on our way and completing our ride without incident. But it was plain and clear that I haven’t spent enough time with her lately.

I used to ride all day every day, and sometimes three or four horses a day. Some days when we worked cattle, we would be gone from sun-up to sun-down, and never get off the horse. Those were the good days, and you could literally feel the bond between the horse and you strengthen. When you’ve gone through a full day’s work, sometimes involving climbing steep gullies, spooking at startled pheasants, gathering a herd of cattle spread out over a section of land, chasing down and turning back a calf that ran away, getting off and opening gates and leading through them, focusing on so much work and accomplishing it as a team—that’s when a true friendship with your horse is made.

I get a lot of reader’s questions, and so often they’re asking how they can strengthen their bond with their horse. A bond is never my goal when I train a horse—it is a by-product of getting a lot of work done, and when you and the horse have come through a lot and covered a lot of miles together, it’s something that becomes tangible. You and the horse are an inseparable team.

I wrote this poem for my horse Rudy when I was looking at leaving him and going to college. I had so much affection for him, and I wanted to portray my feelings for him in a poem, so here it is:

Friend Of Mine 
Friend of mine, across these hills we’ve wandered,
From daylight’s dawn until the moonlight’s end.
Hand in hand, we’ve roamed the plains together.
Down life’s rough trails, you’ve always been my friend.
Friend of mine, you’ve always been my one companion.
Dawn to dusk, together we will roam.
Friend of mine, you’re a horse I’ll love forever.
Friend of mine, we’re goin’ home.

Friend of mine, I’m glad you’re always with me.
I thank the Lord who’s given you to me.
Friend of mine, we’ve a few more miles to travel,
With the wind, together running free.

Friend of mine, you’ve always been my one companion.
Dawn to dusk, together we will roam.
Friend of mine, you’re a horse I’ll love forever.
Friend of mine, we’re goin’ home.

© Kerrie Tischer

Coming into spring, I want to put as much time as I can into my horses. I want to get that understanding and bond with them that I know is attainable if you put the time into it that you should. And that’s my advice if you want a bond with your horse as well—spend more time with him. Even an inexperienced horse owner can learn from just spending time with the horse and observing everything the horse does. A horse is speaking all the time, and when you spend enough time around him, you’ll find yourself start to listen, and then the horse will begin to listen to you in return.

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About Kerrie Tischer

Kerrie Tischer was born on a cattle ranch in the middle of the Sandhills of Nebraska.  Horseback by the age of five and helping with the daily cattle work, she had a hunger to learn about training horses and an all-encompassing desire to have her own horse some day. On her horse blog, Cowgirl Diary,  she shares her stories of growing up on a horse ranch, the horse training knowledge she acquired, the individual horses she has known and loved, and the work and progress she’s making with the ones she owns now. ”While I have never worn a cowboy hat, and my first pair of spurs have been hanging in a dusty tack room for the last fifteen years, I have made it my life goal to get to know horses, and the hours I’ve spent riding are the most well-invested moments of my life.  I am a cowgirl.”

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ZENERGO is for Horse Lovers

Whether your are just a group of friends who like to get together to ride, or a full-featured horseman’s association, Zenergo.com is a good place to to set up, manage, and communicate with your group.

Zenergo is a free, activities-oriented online network with such useful features as Group Calendar, Event Invites system, SubGroups, Membership Messaging, Photo and Document Sharing — all in one place. A range of Privacy settings let you protect the privacy of your members and your SubGroups while recruiting new members in your area.

You can see many of the features at a glance on this sample horse-group page.

Profile of typical Zenergo Horseback Riding Activity Group

How To Choose a Good Trainer for Your Horse (and for You)

By Kerrie Tischer, Cowgirl

from Cowgirl Diary

Girl riding a horse in USA.

Whether you are paying someone to train your horse, give you lessons, or simply choosing which trainer to watch and follow on RFDtv, it’s important to understand what you’re  learning and make an educated choice concerning trainers.  If you’re in the horse business for long at all, you will come to find out that not every horse person is refutable…in fact, there are quite a few “bad apples” when it comes to horse people.  How do you know what to look for when choosing a trainer?  Here are some questions to ask in order to help with your decision.

 1.  What are my horse goals?

First of all, decide what it is that you want to work on in your horse education and learning experience.  Are you wanting to learn to train your own horse from the ground up?  Are you interested in learning dressage or jumping?  Do you need instruction to advance in Western Pleasure, or are you wanting to barrel race?  Understanding what it is you want to do will help you choose a trainer.  Then get recommendations on who is the best trainer around for that discipline.  Use your powerful internet friend Google to search for “barrel racing trainer”, and filter through the results you get.  Ask breeders in your area who they send their horses to, and get their opinions on which trainers are the best.

If you’re wanting to learn how to train your own horse, I have some pretty strong opinions about the popular trainers on television.  If you are a novice horse owner and are afraid to ride, let me just say that you’ll love Pat Parelli’s show.  Parelli teaches you to play Seven Games with your horse that are intended to help you achieve simple steps such as loading a horse in a trailer.  It’s for the beginner horseman who doesn’t yet know how to catch his horse, and by the end of the games, you still won’t know how to put the saddle on.  Parelli is not for the rider, and while it can be entertaining to watch, it’s not going to provide you with the knowledge you need to train a horse to ride.

The most popular trainer today is Clinton Anderson.  A lot of people have come to rely on his methods such as “lunging for respect” and “desensitizing”.  I think he is a valuable trainer to watch, but some of his techniques go a little too far, in my opinion.  When he competed in the ‘Road to The Horse’ colt-starting competition, he had a gray horse in the pen just worn to a frazzle.  He then took a leaf blower, chain saw, and bull whip to make a lot of noise around the horse and desensitize it to loud noises.  I think he pushed the horse beyond the point of necessity, because it really took a lot of the character and life out of the horse.  When I am riding a horse, I still want it to have an awareness about it that sometimes calls for quick movement to avoid danger.  And this horse that he desensitized just didn’t have much sensitivity left.

My favorite horse trainer is Kevin Wescott, a little-known cowboy from central Nebraska.  Like many other current horse trainers, he learned to train by watching the Dorrance brothers and Ray Hunt.  Tom Dorrance was a personal friend of Kevin’s, and he says what Tom taught him changed his life as pertaining to horses.  I have learned so much by watching Kevin horseback, and listening to him explain his timing and precision in cueing the horse, and what he is asking it for.  My best advice in learning to train colts is to find a local trainer and ask if you can just watch every ride.  You will gain so much by watching and asking questions.

So many trainers today are focusing too much on showing off by extreme measures.  If standing on your horse’s back makes you a good trainer, then I guess that’s the thing to do then, right?  Seriously, what is so cool about that?  I see photos of trainers jumping their horses over people lying on the ground, photos of five people sitting on the same horse, trainers bouncing large rubber balls off of their horse’s backs, and more extreme silliness.  If the training process involves endangering people or the horse, it isn’t a good one.  And if the technique does not lend any positive education for activities the horse is going to be involved in, then it is useless.  How about training the horse to ride and respond correctly to cues from the handler?  That’s the kind of trainer I want.

2.  What are the horses saying about this trainer?

Finding a good trainer also involves observing the horses a trainer is working with.  You can tell a lot from a horse’s condition—physically and mentally.  If a trainer is legitimately in it for the horse’s benefit, as every trainer should be, you will be able to see that.  You can tell how much horse trusts his handler, by just watching as they work together.  Horses can read people better than humans can, and if you learn to see what the horse is saying by his body language and actions, you will know if you’ve found yourself a good trainer.  There have been some big-name trainers outed for abuse, and the proof was in the horses.

When you first interview with a trainer, ask questions to find out if you agree with his methods.  If you aren’t a rider who uses spurs, you might not want to hire a trainer who relies on spurs to cue your horse.  Or if you know that your horse is going to need a lot of groundwork, and the trainer isn’t big on that, you know it’s not going to be a good fit.  Talk to other boarders at the barn, or other folks who take lessons from the trainer, to ask for their recommendations.  While you can’t always believe every complaint you hear about a person, by talking to others you can still get a pretty good idea of whether or not the trainer is approachable, easy to get along with, and knows his stuff with horses.

3. What can my horse and I gain from this situation?

There is something to be learned from any trainer, good or bad.  If you watch every horse training program on television, you will find things you like and dislike about every trainer, and it’s really not about that.  You want to gain knowledge of horses, and sometimes it means watching someone make a fool of themselves and learning what not to do with a horse!  But often you can watch a training session and learn more from the horse than you do from the trainer.  You will learn timing, and what happens when a trainer applies pressure and releases it, and how to increase pressure on a horse to get a response, and how to reward a horse through releasing the pressure.  All of this can be seen with just about any trainer, and by watching how the horses act and react, you will gain knowledge that will help you in working with your own horse.

Working with a trainer in person, as opposed to watching videos or television programs, is a much more thorough way to learn, because you have a chance to ask questions and get personal instruction.  If there’s anything I have learned about horses, it’s that every horse is different, and what you see a horse do on TV might not work at all when you try it with your horse.  As a trainer, you have to adapt and be creative in order to gain the best from your horse.  Some methods won’t work on every horse, and no technique is fool-proof.  So getting help from a trainer in person is the best way to safely learn.  Some of the TV gurus have equipped their viewers with just enough horse sense to get them badly hurt—because they give people the idea that they CAN do this at home with their horse, and then the horse doesn’t cooperate, or they don’t have a thorough grasp of the technique and the cues involved, and it all goes wrong.  Don’t buy into the idea that horse whispering is something you get from reading books on horse training—you have to watch it in person, you have to listen to the trainer explain why he’s doing what he’s doing, and you have to be able to read a horse and understand what he’s saying with his body language and adapt your own body language to produce the desired response.

4.  Are the trainer’s charges realistic for what I can afford?

This is a big one for me, because I am shocked at how much some of these trainers are charging today.  I grew up riding, and have never taken a riding lesson in my life.  My next door neighbor was a professional horse trainer, the aforementioned Kevin Wescott, and I always sought his help with my problem horses, which he always willingly gave me at no charge.  He said Tom Dorrance never charged him a penny, either.  He said those old-time cowboys were in it for the horses, it was never about making money.  Well, those days are gone, I’m afraid.

My husband never had horses until he met me, but he always was a fan and wanted to know more about them.  When he first started riding, he looked into spending a week at a horsemanship clinic, but the fees were a couple thousand dollars.  This kind of training just isn’t in the cards for us, and if you’re in the same boat, you have to find something that works for you.  This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to settle for less.  Some of the best horsemen are little-known 4-H leaders in their community, and will offer their advice and help for next to nothing.  Or if you’re in cattle country, seek out a local rancher who has good horses, and hire his help.  Many feedlots employ riders to work their cattle and sort out sick ones, and many of these are excellent horsemen who take in horses to train while doing their jobs.  This type of trainer won’t have a big name, but his horse knowledge might be as good as any, and it won’t cost very much.  It all depends on what you want for your horse, and how much you can afford to pay.

All in all, a good trainer is worth it.  But only if you can truly benefit from his work and advice.  Be as involved as possible in the process…. there are many people who get their horse home and have the same problems they started out with.  Or the trainer has not communicated well enough with the rider so that little or no progress is made.  This is why it’s so important to find a trainer that’s good with horses, good with people, and good to your bank account.  Good luck in your search!

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About Kerrie Tischer

Kerrie Tischer was born on a cattle ranch in the middle of the Sandhills of Nebraska.  Horseback by the age of five and helping with the daily cattle work, she had a hunger to learn about training horses and an all-encompassing desire to have her own horse some day. On her horse blog, Cowgirl Diary,  she shares her stories of growing up on a horse ranch, the horse training knowledge she acquired, the individual horses she has known and loved, and the work and progress she’s making with the ones she owns now. ”While I have never worn a cowboy hat, and my first pair of spurs have been hanging in a dusty tack room for the last fifteen years, I have made it my life goal to get to know horses, and the hours I’ve spent riding are the most well-invested moments of my life.  I am a cowgirl.”

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Run Your Horse Group On Zenergo!

Whether your are just a group of friends who like to get together to ride, or a full-featured horseman’s association, Zenergo.com is a good place to to set up, manage, and communicate with your group.

Zenergo is a free activities-oriented social network with group calendar, event and invites system, subgroups, membership messaging, photo and document sharing — all in one place. A range of privacy settings let you protect the privacy of your members and your subgroups while recruiting new members (if you wish).

You can see many of the features at a glance on this sample group page.